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GET YOUR GUY READY FOR LOVIN'
By LULU RECLUSADO-NARIO
THERE’S really no need to sweat it. Romantic potions or a full meal of aphrodisiacs don’t have to be prepared.
Pia Acevedo, relationship coach of Love Institute, is brief about it. She gave tips which are surefire ways to get your partner in the mood. These will definitely help you stay alert, focused, and energetic in encouraging positive mood swings from your partner.
SMELL GOOD
“You have to stay attractive to your partner,” Pia Acevedo of Love Institute says. “Sensual and sexual desire should be maintained, and the way you look and smell should be a number one priority.”
Well, experts say that looking good and smelling good can be achieved by simply finding time for yourself. Commit to take a little breather each day, whether you’re a career woman or a full-time mom. You can do this by soaking in the tub after work or enjoying a quiet moment with your favorite coffee drink in between household chores.
Don’t skip your daily walk or quick exercise no matter how busy you are. Even 15 to 20 minutes of twists and turns can make you feel good and give you that rosy glow.
The point is not to look harassed or stressed out when he comes home or meets up with you. “If you think he’s got you all figured out, be mysterious and always dress up for your partner,” Acevedo says.
ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE
“You have to ask your partner what he wants to experience,” Acevedo says. “It is a matter of trust and whatever fantasies he tells you, he knows he won’t
be judged.”
“He may have always wanted to do it in the bathtub or wished this kind of lighting is available in the house,” she says, “or he may want to go camping or hiking with just the two of you together.”
All you need to do is ask, talk things out, and discover the fun and romantic things you want to do with each other.
MAKE YOUR 'ALONE TIME' TOGETHER NON-NEGOTIABLE
Make sure you set aside real ‘alone time’ with your loved one. This should be non-negotiable. Nothing else, except matters of life and death, should replace this time with your man. This is difficult because there’s simply less time available to connect with your partner.
But our relationship coach has an easy solution: “Don’t just squeeze him in between your career and the children. Say `yes’ to him at least twice or thrice a week. And that schedule should be really in your weekly planner.”
Now in cases when his mood swings to the negative most of the time this thing needs looking into. Are there signs like he doesn’t want you to be touching his cell phone? Or has he, all of a sudden, found a new batch of friends that he has to see weeknights?
FIND OUT THE TRUTH
“Don’t let him keep you guessing,” Acevedo says as there shouldn’t be areas in your life as a couple that you can’t touch, most especially a material thing like a cell phone.
“Women have to always go with gut feel,” she adds. “His withdrawal from you could just be that he’s stressed out. But make sure that during these times, you are more present in his life, and even more romantic.”
SAY NO TO INFIDELITY
But in serious cases of infidelity, you will have to draw the line. “You have to confront him and tell him you will no longer agree to an arrangement that is not in your favor,” Acevedo says. “Infidelity means he is not honest with you and his satisfaction becomes more important.”
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